To my mind it depends a bit on one's partner and the ability to respond to their leads, but in some ways that's kind of the point. I remember something North Carolina dancer (and electrotrad maven) Eileen Thorsos said on the matter when I interviewed her in 2011 that I remember really liking: "....There's a lot of following -- understanding what's going on with your partner -- that's built into leading."
Do you agree? Is there something else that makes for a good follower/lady/right-hand-role in contra? For those who answer, I'm also curious -- which role do you usually dance, and do you dance switch (i.e., dancing where you and your partner agree to trade roles through the iterations of the dance)?